LittleBuddy went to see Kung Fu Panda 2 with day camp yesterday. I had no idea part of the storyline was Po looking for his parents (he was adopted).
Needless to say, LB had a pretty rough night.
It sounds like a lovely movie but it may be too heavy for some kiddos (foster, adopted, from blended families). I have not yet seen it but Café Smom has a wonderful post over on her blog.. please make sure to check it out!
During LittleBuddy's HellaWeek, DH was away on business. In the middle of his raging I was feeling rather alone, however, looking back we both agree that it was best that Daddy wasn't around. LB is more reserved around hubs and he needed to let it all hang out (boy, did he ever).
Upon his triumphant return, rad gifts were presented...
LB wanted sand from the beach. Not only did he get sand, there's magic little shells in there, too (uuhh, look close)..
SweetPea is fascinated by fish. Her, "Bish in wawa!!" keeps her mesmerized for hours...
What was my gift? Why a Of course!
I'm happy to report things have settled down significantly. LB has purged the latest round of demons and seems "lighter". We're back to our old, fairly drama-free routine. It's wonderful having Daddy home and things are as they should be.
Many of you may remember Maxie's Great Escape/Return last year. Our then 12 year old bully/lab mix ran like the wind and was on the lamb for a month. Over the weekend, he and Dakota (besties since '98) got to have fun in the sun and had a blast playing with their kids..
Big, wet kisses and giggles...
Sunshine and Fun...
Perfectly Sweet Pups..
(PS the red on 'Koda's leg is her fur coloring!) :)
This was, by far, the roughest week to date in our little home. It came to a head last night in an explosive display of rage by LittleBuddy... the likes I have never seen. On top of Daddy being out of town for work (one authority figure gone), Friday was the last day of school. Saying goodbye is overwhelming and it's mighty clear LB doesn't handle change well. Can you blame him? He has moved, changed schools, had to make new friends and deal with living in a home with rules. He has had to adjust to more than most of us adults could handle. And it's not the first time he's had to endure this.
In his words: "I'm all jumbled up inside.."
Once the anger finally passed (hours later), he curled up in my arms and sobbed uncontrollably for nearly a half hour. He cried that no one wanted him. I have to say, it took everything in me to not burst into tears myself. By the grace of God I was able to keep it together and softly reassure him how much we all love him and his sister.
We rocked and waited out the storm.
Thanks to a biofamily member that has nothing more than DNA in common with the kids (read: they don't know this person from Adam) we're still at a place where LB can't be told where his final living place will be. He can't even start moving forward in the healing process and everyone on the case is livid. We had a court date set and now I'm told it has been postponed.
It's the epitome of selfish.
For now we work on LB one day (hour, minute) at a time. All the grief, anger, loss, trauma, neglect and abuse. When each horrific storm cloud passes, the sun shines through and I feel another bit of the weight is lifted. Not completely but some is better than nothing.
Little Buddy's class had their Spring Sing presentation on Wednesday. They worked really hard and did a fantastic job. It concluded with a sing along.. everyone in attendance got a copy and we all sang our hearts out...
If his lovely teacher was trying to make me and AuntieMooMoo cry, she succeeded.
LB continued singing his version to me over the course of the evening .. he knows how to melt this Mama's heart. After the brutal month we've had, I can't begin to describe how awesome happy tears feel..
I came up for air long enough last night to realize a year ago this week, JuneBug was transitioning away. I dropped her bio family an email to check in and send hugs and kisses. I am thrilled to report she is doing great, has managed to stay out of a cast all year long and will be adopted by them very soon. And she is still sporting a fav pair of pink cowgirl boots!
Last week was hellacious for Little Buddy (and, in turn, us) and we're currently waiting for the storm to pass. It's getting a little better but still fierce. Will write more when it's safe to come out of the basement..
Sleuthy Auntie M phoned the husband of the late (possible) birth mom and determined it was not a match. He was kind and chatty but they did not move to my state of birth until nearly a decade after I was born..
An ongoing tale of our most excellent (and terrifying) adventure yet.. adoption via foster care. This is a journey Darling Husband and I started with Nantie ("Nanny-Auntie" - a blessing from above) in 2007. Although she moved in 2010, we miss her dearly and so appreciate all she did while here.
We also have a herd of rescued canines, fear the Lord and laugh a lot.
August, 2011: Seven amazing placements and a week after we were told LittleBuddy and SweetPea were available for us to adopt, my husband passed away unexpectedly.
April, 2012: I had the honor of adopting my darling 7 year old son (Little Buddy) and 3 1/2 year old sister (SweetPea). I awoke the following day a 40something, widowed single mommy... and couldn't of been happier.
In 1999, a year after my own mother passed away I found out I, myself, was an adopted county baby. Life has some ironic twists but we all seem to come Full Circle
This is our story.
Our Inner Circle
OUR PLACEMENTS ~
Nov 2010 ~ APRIL, 2012 (ADOPTION DAY!) "Little Buddy" ~ 6 years old & "SweetPea" ~ his 22 month old sister
Feb 2010 to May 2010 "JuneBug" ~ 2 year old Princess
Aug 2009 to October 2009 "Mannie" ~ 3 1/2 years old & "Little Miss Sunshine" ~ his 6mo old sister
Jan 2009 to Aug 2009 "Jack" ~ 4 1/2 years old & "Jill" ~ Jack's twin sister
THE REST OF US:
Melissa: Yours Truly
DH: Darling Husband (Rest In Peace, My Love) Nantie: Lived with us and watched the kiddos until June '10 Elvis: Nantie's Heartthrob Gramsie: MIL Big Daddy/GramPapa: FIL Missy: Auntie MooMoo ~SIL/Best Friend Uncle Kiwi: BIL from NZ/Missy's Hubby Bren : BFF Kadi : Darling Cousin