Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Hey Adoptive Mamas ~ I Need Your Input, Please!

At 8PM EST TONIGHT I'm going to be on Get Real! with beautiful Sarah discussing what biological moms should know about adoptive moms. Misconceptions, things we say that may or may not be appropriate and how we can celebrate adoptive families. How cool is THAT?!

If you are a parent via adoption and would like to share an experience you would like me to pass along tonight, please leave a comment! Also, you can join us live in chat and share your thoughts, as well! We would LOVE to have you!


Also tonight at 9PM EST on MomTV's Adoption Angles, my guest is lovely Sally Bacchetta from The Adoptive Parent will be joining us!
She is an adoptive mother and award-winning writer with more than a decade of experience in medical writing, magazine journalism, and corporate communications. She draws on her educational and professional background in psychology and counseling to illuminate the private thoughts of adoptive parents with sensitivity and honesty. Sally is the author of the book What I Want My Adopted Child to Know: An Adoptive Parent's Perspective. For more information about Sally and her book visit

How do you find us? Go here:
Adoption Angles on MomTV

Type a chat name in and THAT'S it! You're IN!

Join us tonight at 9PM EST.. 6PM for all the west coasties TONIGHT! It's a Mel Double Header tonight on MomTV!!! Please join the fun!!


Mama Melissa said...

I think that is great!

I'm a single adoptive mom to a daughter who is almost 4 years old. And a foster mom to a 17 year old.

I think the biggest thing for me is that we're just a "family" like anyone else, and if biological families could treat us that way, it would be great.

Biology doesn't make a family, love does. And, when people come up to us and ask intrusive questions, it gets old. Also, treating us with pity or acting like we should be sad we've adopted is just irritating. We love our children. Just because someone else doesn't (can't) make the decision to adopt, doesn't mean that we're all that way.

I would also like to share that I think that adoptive parents who ignore the first family of their child is playing with fire, too. Everyone wants to know where they came from and our children need to process their losses. We need to be there for them in whatever capacity they need us to help them heal.

Biological families are obviously necessary and ordained by God. But, so is adoption.

Feel free to contact me if you would like more of my thoughts/rants. :D

Melissa (adoption blog) (SMBC blog)

Lavender Luz said...

I think there are many of us a-moms who would like firstmoms to know that we would love to be on the same side (not adversarial), or for there to be no sides at all. That there is room for everyone in the equation, and that it's actually better this way -- especially for the child.

And that we should both give each other the benefits of any doubt if there are miscommunications. Jump to the conclusion that the other is doing the best she can and has good intentions, rather than assuming that the other is out to hurt you.

Wow -- lots going on for you!

Real Life Sarah said...

What an incredible discussion tonight, Mel! Thanks so much for coming on, I think we all learned so much!


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