**A WARNING.. THIS IS AN EXCEPTIONALLY LONG POST**
I've had several emails and comments asking where we stand in all this so here's the skinny:
As ya'll may recall, we had changed our status from 2 children to 1 child five months ago (or so we thought) and were surprised we were even contacted about twins to begin with. We figured it was a matter of urgency since the call came on the Sunday over the three day MLK weekend. It was. They needed to be moved by the following Friday and it was a short week.
With what little info the county had on them and the case, we could not (in good conscience) say whether or not we thought they would be a good match for us. We were relieved the wonderful worker "K" totally understood and didn't cop a 'tude
like "J" did when we turned down the placement back in September.
So we went into this as an emergency placement with the understanding that once things settle down and we got to know the kids, we have the opportunity to change our status to foster to adopt. If we felt it wasn't a good match and they are more than we can handle, we would let "K" know right away and she would start looking for a fost/adopt family to move them to.
I gave DH a month to decide.
This is a huge decision and impacts everyone. The twins, us, Nantie..
everyone. I've been trying not to push DH... but come on.. I have to drop hint bombs, right? Here is how I nonchalantly started the conversation last week:
ME: I know I gave you a month to decide on the kids' placement but I just wanted to let you know I've already made up my mind.
(Covert, right? It gets better..)
DH: Okay.
ME: Could you even begin to imagine packing their things up and shipping them off to another foster family?!
DH (startled): What? Oh hell no!
ME: Decision made?
DH: Without a doubt. If they don't go home to Mom they are already home.
And so it is. We've changed our status to fost/adopt.
At this point the case is geared towards reunifying Jack and Jill with mom and a target date for them to return has been set. We do not know what her treatment plan is and will not be told. Her next court date is in April and I plan to attend to get a better feel for how it's all going (for the most part we're kept in the dark).
SO, the prayer we're sending up goes something like this: "Dear Lord, we thank you for bringing these darling angels into our home. No matter the outcome, we will love them with all our hearts. Keep them safe, happy and healthy and help us be patient and understanding. Please watch over their Mama and help guide her. Keep us from being selfish and wishing her ill will. We put this in your hands. If they are to return home, please give us the strength to let them go."
One last question I have been asked is about pictures. I will not be posting anything that identifies them but trust me when I say they are darling.