Thursday, August 13, 2009

And So It Begins..

In a couple weeks Jack and Jill will move. The transition plan has been put into motion and the clock is ticking. This week will finish out business as usual but next week things will be changing. Longer visits with the family they will be moving in with, followed by an overnight stay and then they will be gone.

They won't be told until about 2 days prior to the move. It's really just too much to process at such a young age. They'll be told at The Office and will have time to grieve here at home. What people don't understand is that they, too, experience grief and loss when they leave foster homes. Especially when they are so bonded and embedded in the family.

As well as we know them, we're not exactly sure what their reaction will be. Mom has told them all along they would be going home with her soon. They have it in their heads that, if and when a move happens, it will be back to her. I think they are going to be furious and confused.

And you can't blame them.

Although we have had bumps in the road with the family, the one thing we do agree on is we want this to be as smooth of a transition as possible for the kids. We all love them and want to protect them as best we can. In the end, we can't ask much more than that.

Please keep them in your prayers and good thoughts.

12 comments:

Lavender Luz said...

Keeping you ALL in my thoughts and prayers.

You are making such a difference in the world by making such a difference to these children.

Holler if you need anything in the coming weeks. I'll take you out, whatever.

Mountain Girl said...

I'll pray for not just the kids, but the adults! I'm sure it will be tough for all parties, but it sounds like the kids are being put first.

Sheri said...

Melissa -- I am thinking of you and know this must be SO difficult not only for you and DH personally, but also the way you love these kids and can feel their pain, confusion, etc.

I am sending you love and healing energy as you move through this and keeping you in my prayers.

May your love and strength guide you and everyone forward.

Nichole said...

Is the family they are moving in with extended family?

Michele said...

many prayers

A Mom in Jacksonville, FL said...

Here from LFCA. I used to be a social worker in the foster care system. I applaud you and your DH for the love and support you've given Jack & Jill and will continue to send their way even when they're no longer living with you. I wish we had more loving families like yours that were part of the fostering system. Sending you supportive hugs!

Aunt Becky said...

Sending you love and light during this turbulent time.

Anonymous said...

Here from LFCA

I am overwhelmed by the thought of what a positive force you have been for these children, and by the sadness that you and they will be going through. Wishing you, and them, much future love and happiness.

Ann

Heather said...

Will be thinking about the whole lot of you over the next few weeks...

Kasey@All Things Mamma said...

Sending prayers to you all! What a strong, loving family you are to be able to take in children ad give them back when it's time. I'm not sure I could.

Kim @ What's That Smell? said...

Ok, well I can't say much more eloquently than others have so I will just offer you a big HUG...

karen.hartzell@gracobaby.com said...

I just don't get why they would transition them to another home from yours if it's not to their mother. That's just WONKY! (And DUMB if I say so myself!) Strength to you all my friend. :-)

 

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