Saturday, March 13, 2010

Remember That Roller Coaster I Talked About?

Well, we've hit the loop de loop, my friends..

This past week we found out that JuneBug has family that has stepped up for her. It's a wee bit complicated (there's a shocker, right?) and it could take several months to get their approval (home check, background checks, etc) completed. The county is shooting for 60-90 days and is working diligently towards that goal. You never know what's going to happen but, from what we've been told, they sound like a stellar family.

That eases our hearts greatly. She deserves nothing but the very best.

So now we change gears. We're wrapping our minds around embracing them and doing what we can to make this go smoothly. Our worker asked how I would feel about phone contact with them.. I said no. In a previous case a family member (whom the county thought was stable but found out later, not so much) was given our number and totally abused it. Talk about violating our space, right?

Baby steps..

I told him I would be happy to start off with email correspondence and work from there. First and foremost I want them to know JuneBug is safe, beyond loved and wants for nothing. We foster parents have a bad wrap and I want to alleviate any anxiety they may have (to the best of my ability, anyway).

Yes, we were initially crushed but again, happy to hear how wonderful the family is. Shoe on the other foot.. if she was your niece or grand daughter, would you be falling all over yourself to get her back? Go above and beyond? Drop everything and focus on her?

We would, too.

9 comments:

Marsha said...

Bittersweet news I know, Melissa. I'll be praying for you through this transition. Been there...done that.... Bless you, sister!

Lavender Luz said...

I love the addition of JuneBug to your masthead.

And again, I am in awe of the way you keep your kids at the center of your efforts. Loving them and wanting what's best for them, no matter what.

Wow.

SocialWrkr24/7 said...

So happy for Junebug - its wonderful that someone in her family wants her! But sad for you - I know this isn't the result you wanted. Hugs and Prayers for all involved!

Fishsticks and Fireflies said...

You, my friend, are AMAZING! I am so in awe and so inspired by the love that you give these children and by the grace with which you handle all of the ups and downs.

Tracy Hahn-Burkett said...

It is wonderful for her and wonderful that you are able to be so selfless in your attitude for her. But I know it's also difficult to you. I have so much respect for you and how much strength it takes to handle this situation so gracefully. How fortunate for both of you that your paths have crossed. Best wishes for your whole family, for always!

Kristin said...

Oh Melissa, I am so sorry little June-Bug isn't (probably) your forever daughter but I am so very glad she has a wonderful family that wants her back. {{{Hugs}}}

GsMomAswifey said...

Being a foster to adopt parent as well, we know the ultimate goal is reunification. It's great that she has family who wants her. Hang in there, there is a child who needs you more and will find his/her way to ya!

alicia said...

Aww... so glad for JuneBug, and we'll definitely be remembering you in our prayers as you work on transitioning once again.

Sheri said...

I've said it before and I'll say it again, I'm sure. You and your DH are truly angels.

 

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